So here's the deal, I have been trying to get the house clean, really clean, organize every last crany and even do some purging. This is so hard, I just never catch up! One room gets destroyed by the kids as I try to keep a step ahead.
The floor in the bathroom got done tonight, not on the list for tonight but when a little girl takes off her easy-up and steps in poo and walks around the bathroom you kinda get forced into an alternate schedule. I think I will now got back and do the toilet and tub, might as well get that room out of the way for the week.
I used to use Scrub Free or Scum Free (something like that)and other similar products to clean the tub but when I got pregos I couldn't stomach all the chemically stench and was afraid of the fumes so I switched to Avon bubble bath, (this is a must click just to see all the uses) and it is so awesome I will never go back to the stinky stuff.
The bonus is that it can be used to clean a load of other things, and it works really well! Now the thing for me is that if it works so well on cleaning all this stained stuff why would I want to use it to bathe----what the heck is in it, I am afraid it will melt off my skin or something!
Dave and I used to clean the lab I worked in for some extra cash on the side. Over a few years we tried tons of different cleaners and commercial products to get a streak free shine to the floors, turned out that Avon delivered with the bubble bath and we could choose the scent we liked (mmmm, peach was yummy). Anyway, for the tub I just love it and I don't worry about chemical residue for my babes baths, and nasty smells!
Ahh, I just inspired myself, so much for the rest of this post, it will have to wait, I am off to clean the bathroom!
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Monday, June 25, 2007
Oh, Yea!
I had to post this pic here since Dave hates feet and it would gross him out if it were on the family site (he doesn't come here)Anyway...I was so excited that I got the chance to do my nails, really do my nails, remove the old six layers and even add a little bling! I took time for me, so I just had to share(brag) it!!
Thursday, June 21, 2007
So it's been a while...
I have been meaning to do a post here for a while but I have been trying to plug through a book as well and it has taken priority. The book is The Pampered Child Syndrome by Dr. Maggie Mamen. Yikes, makes me wonder if these kiddo's have a fighting chance. If you have a kid or are planning to have one, read this book! It is a must read! I will fill you in on all my discoveries once I have finished it. So far though I know we have a few things to work on around here so we don't have pampered demanding teenagers someday, pray for me, this parenting thing is so huge!!!!
Did you notice the new surroundings on this page? What do you think? It is aways a work in progress and there is also a new one in the works for the family site, someday when I get more time it will show up.
Did you notice the new surroundings on this page? What do you think? It is aways a work in progress and there is also a new one in the works for the family site, someday when I get more time it will show up.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
I need a massage!!!!
There has got to be a better way. The backpack is killing my back and shoulders. Maybe I will just double diaper the kids when I go out and spare myself some pain.
Sunday, June 3, 2007
Shade your eyes!!
Ya, I know totally gross. But that is what my belly looked like after babe#2. After Kaitlyn my belly was totally fine so when stretch marks started to show with Ethan I was so sad. I used the Palmer's coco butter belly cream throughout the pregnancy and for the first 6 months after. It faded the stretch marks really well but my stomach was still as wrinkly as an elephant's butt. I went to the baby expo in April and there was an Arbonne booth. (click to view)
with a few before and after photos on display and I thought they were amazing and didn't really believe it but thought that it wouldn't hurt to try it, any improvement would be good. I have been really happy with the results and am going to keep using it and hope it keeps getting better. So to all you moms with droopy skin, this really has been working for me. It is bloody expensive but worth it and still way cheaper than a tummy tuck!!
My miracle cream.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Part #3 of the mommy rant.
Such a great point PIP! The social side is so important too. I hope that I get my kids out on playdates enough that they are not behind when it comes to their social lives. I know Kaitlyn hangs with her Auntie Em enough that I am not worried. The independent skill is something I am not worried about, I think that it is something that will develop when it needs to. I developed mine when I went to kindergarten and it only took a day. My sister Em was home schooled so it was longer for her but at the age of six she broke out of that safe little bubble and is as interactive as the next kid. It was just her time and she wasn't forced into it because society said she needed to do it at a certain age.
I have heard that the social and independent skills need to be developed at a young age or the part of the brain that hold those functions loses it's connection and it is too late. What that age is I am not sure, I have heard age 3 as well as 7-9, so if someone knows for sure I would love it if you could let me know!
Emotional growth and development is the most important in the first two years says the author of the book Why Love Matters and this opens the pathways for proper development socially.
Ack, How are my kids ever going to survive! I love hearing what you all think , it keeps my mind going and helps me to see the broader picture. Seeing things from new angles is great! Thank you for the awesome comments!!! Keep it up.
I have heard that the social and independent skills need to be developed at a young age or the part of the brain that hold those functions loses it's connection and it is too late. What that age is I am not sure, I have heard age 3 as well as 7-9, so if someone knows for sure I would love it if you could let me know!
Emotional growth and development is the most important in the first two years says the author of the book Why Love Matters and this opens the pathways for proper development socially.
Ack, How are my kids ever going to survive! I love hearing what you all think , it keeps my mind going and helps me to see the broader picture. Seeing things from new angles is great! Thank you for the awesome comments!!! Keep it up.
Sunday, May 27, 2007
Battle in my mind, SAHM vs. Career mom
This post will drag, it has been heavy on my heart and I feel I just didn't say it all in the last post. I am a very passionate person so this is an emotional write for me. First off I want to say to all my friends who chose to work with their kids in a child-care of one type or another, that I still love you and I know that the decisions that you made were well thought out and are what works best for you. I still love you and do not judge you, I respect your decisions.
Well...here goes again... I have been thinking about this job I now have as a professional stay at home mom and the more thougt I have put into it the more important I have realized it is. In Ann's comment on the last post she mentioned that some moms just aren't cut out to be SAHM's. I do agree, absolutely!!! When there is alcohol abuse, physical abuse, drug abuse, or other forms of abuse or neglect in the home it is definitely better for the child to be elsewhere. But I still feel very strongly that in most cases it is better for the child if the mother(of father) is at home.
When I was a kid I grew up next to a daycare and the owner was a great lady, I loved to go over there and play with the kids. However, every morning there were kids crying for their mom's when dropped off and they would cry when it was time to leave because they wanted to stay.
Over the last few years I have been paying huge attention to the behavioral differences in children in day-care and those at home. My general observation (of course there are exceptions) is that the children that are in day-care are rowdier, louder and rougher, more demanding and fussier than those at home with their mom's day to day.
I have heard mom's say that it is the quality over quantity and it is making the most of the time you have with your child. However, a child does not understand that concept. They understand when their mom is there and when she is not.
Danielle Crittenden makes an excellent observation in What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us — that quality time with kids can’t be scheduled into a day.
Children want a mother’s presence, the knowledge that she will be there when they have a question or a story to tell — but quite often they simply want her to do her own work while they color and play with pals. And those memorable times — their first steps and words, their profound utterances of child wisdom, the moments of belly laughing together — happen at the most unexpected times during day-in, day-out living. The chances are much higher that a mother will miss out on them if she is working outside the home.
A mother's life is about sacrifices, giving up certain things for the sake of greater long—term benefits. Sacrificing what you want to do for yourself to be a mom to your children is hard but the rewards are huge. I know there could be times of financial strain in my marriage. I know I might encounter tension with the majority of my married female peers because of my choice to stay at home. I’m not saying that I’m going to derive pleasure from changing diapers and cleaning up puddles but I know that I am a huge part of my children's lives and it is a small stage so I try to enjoy every part of it. I will probably miss those little things someday. It is only by sacrifice that we understand what true love, commitment and maturity really mean. Being a mother forces you to look outside yourself to the needs of others.
I want my children to know that they are as important to me as a career and put them first rather than the career, which can wait till they are in school or grown. I would be selfish to leave them to be raised by a system for my own self gratification.
I do think that a nanny or day home are better than a day care centre, but none of them replace a mommy. It all comes down to who you want to raise your kids and who you want to be there for them when they experience all the little day to day things that help them grow.
I want my children to reap the benefits of having a full-time mom, one who is available for conversation, hugs and laughs and cries any time of day.
I want to give that gift to my children. If it means I don't get to drive a loaded pearl finish with the gold package Lincoln Navigator(drool) but instead my 7 yr old Durango and shop at thrift stores and Walmart for the next 5-10yrs, so be it. Children don't know the difference between Goodwill and GUESS. I certainly didn't. If those are some of the small sacrifices I have to make to stay home with my kids they are totally worth it!!!!
Now the big question is, do all these children turn out the same in the end once they are grown, or is that even a factor? Is it the here and now and living in the moment with your child that matters? What is the outcome? Am I way out of line in how I see this? Do Dr.Phil, Dr. Dobson and other conservative family psycologists have it all wrong when they say a mommy at home is best?
I really would like to see this whole thing through the eyes of a working mom and see how she thinks it affects her child and their growth and development.
I know I rambled on again. So ya, I am guessing I have formed even more enemies, I really am puting it all out ther aren't I!? Remember theses are just my opinions.
Well...here goes again... I have been thinking about this job I now have as a professional stay at home mom and the more thougt I have put into it the more important I have realized it is. In Ann's comment on the last post she mentioned that some moms just aren't cut out to be SAHM's. I do agree, absolutely!!! When there is alcohol abuse, physical abuse, drug abuse, or other forms of abuse or neglect in the home it is definitely better for the child to be elsewhere. But I still feel very strongly that in most cases it is better for the child if the mother(of father) is at home.
When I was a kid I grew up next to a daycare and the owner was a great lady, I loved to go over there and play with the kids. However, every morning there were kids crying for their mom's when dropped off and they would cry when it was time to leave because they wanted to stay.
Over the last few years I have been paying huge attention to the behavioral differences in children in day-care and those at home. My general observation (of course there are exceptions) is that the children that are in day-care are rowdier, louder and rougher, more demanding and fussier than those at home with their mom's day to day.
I have heard mom's say that it is the quality over quantity and it is making the most of the time you have with your child. However, a child does not understand that concept. They understand when their mom is there and when she is not.
Danielle Crittenden makes an excellent observation in What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us — that quality time with kids can’t be scheduled into a day.
Children want a mother’s presence, the knowledge that she will be there when they have a question or a story to tell — but quite often they simply want her to do her own work while they color and play with pals. And those memorable times — their first steps and words, their profound utterances of child wisdom, the moments of belly laughing together — happen at the most unexpected times during day-in, day-out living. The chances are much higher that a mother will miss out on them if she is working outside the home.
A mother's life is about sacrifices, giving up certain things for the sake of greater long—term benefits. Sacrificing what you want to do for yourself to be a mom to your children is hard but the rewards are huge. I know there could be times of financial strain in my marriage. I know I might encounter tension with the majority of my married female peers because of my choice to stay at home. I’m not saying that I’m going to derive pleasure from changing diapers and cleaning up puddles but I know that I am a huge part of my children's lives and it is a small stage so I try to enjoy every part of it. I will probably miss those little things someday. It is only by sacrifice that we understand what true love, commitment and maturity really mean. Being a mother forces you to look outside yourself to the needs of others.
I want my children to know that they are as important to me as a career and put them first rather than the career, which can wait till they are in school or grown. I would be selfish to leave them to be raised by a system for my own self gratification.
I do think that a nanny or day home are better than a day care centre, but none of them replace a mommy. It all comes down to who you want to raise your kids and who you want to be there for them when they experience all the little day to day things that help them grow.
I want my children to reap the benefits of having a full-time mom, one who is available for conversation, hugs and laughs and cries any time of day.
I want to give that gift to my children. If it means I don't get to drive a loaded pearl finish with the gold package Lincoln Navigator(drool) but instead my 7 yr old Durango and shop at thrift stores and Walmart for the next 5-10yrs, so be it. Children don't know the difference between Goodwill and GUESS. I certainly didn't. If those are some of the small sacrifices I have to make to stay home with my kids they are totally worth it!!!!
Now the big question is, do all these children turn out the same in the end once they are grown, or is that even a factor? Is it the here and now and living in the moment with your child that matters? What is the outcome? Am I way out of line in how I see this? Do Dr.Phil, Dr. Dobson and other conservative family psycologists have it all wrong when they say a mommy at home is best?
I really would like to see this whole thing through the eyes of a working mom and see how she thinks it affects her child and their growth and development.
I know I rambled on again. So ya, I am guessing I have formed even more enemies, I really am puting it all out ther aren't I!? Remember theses are just my opinions.
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